Money & Your Mental Health
How has money affected your life?
Do you lie awake at night tossing and turning over unpaid bills, feel your anxiety levels rise when you log into your bank account or feel overwhelmed at the thought of your debt?
If you answered yes to any of the above, you’re not alone. According to the Financial Consumer Agency of Canada, at least 48% of Canadians say they have lost sleep because of their financial situation and many believe their financial state impacts their mental health in a negative way. With so many financial pressures burdening our every day lives, it’s no wonder our mental health has been affected.
The five stages
Like the five stages of grief, debt also has its cycle.
- Denial: Many people dealing with debt of any size like to pretend it doesn’t exist. It’s that whole idea of, “What you don’t know won’t hurt you.” By avoiding your debt and the signs of it, you can continue to live as you are, avoiding your fears and reality.
- Anger: Once reality hits, denial is often quickly replaced with anger. Why did you let things get so bad? Why couldn’t you get a handle of your finances? Why don’t you have a better paying job or why did you take out that loan? But here’s the thing―everyone fails. Just because you made mistakes with your money or let your debt get ahead doesn’t make you any less of a person. And using up your energy on this stage doesn’t help you in the end, so it’s best to just move on.
- Bargaining: This is the stage where you’ll often make empty promises like, “I’ll never take out another loan again!” or “I’ll never use my credit card again!” The guilt you feel at this stage leads you to believe that if you make a deal with yourself and your higher power, you’ll gain back that control you lost. This is also usually when dreams of winning the lottery will fix everything… (sound familiar?)
- Depression: This one might hit a little too close to home for some, but that’s okay. As you well know, your mental health suffers when your financial worries overcome you. It’s normal to feel defeated by your debt. Thoughts like, “I’ll never get out of debt” and “What’s the point of working so hard if I never even get ahead?” can be debilitating. By putting up these mental barriers between you and your financial freedom, it’s easy to fall prey to your negative thoughts and let your depression and anxiety seep in.
- Acceptance: Once you come to terms with your debt and financial struggles, this is when you start to see a way out. You’ve moved past the anger, bargaining and depression and you’re ready to start your life anew. You’re ready to face your finances head-on and dig your way back out.
Your next steps
Once you’re ready to tackle your financial issues, here are some great next steps to take:
Find your why
What’s your motivation for getting out of debt or managing your money better? What are your short-term and long-term goals? Once you have your “why,” you’ll be more determined to succeed.
Take a good, hard look at what brought you to where you are today―and then let it go. There’s no use harbouring resentment to past choices and decisions. Direct that energy instead to your future choices and decisions that will help you reach your goals.
Remove the blinders
It’s easy to live life with cognitive blinders, seeing only a narrow viewpoint. Take a step back and look at the larger picture. Identify the holes in your financial plan, look for opportunities to put you in a better financial position and reach out to those who are a part of your financial journey―like your financial planner, service providers and creditors.
Ask for help
While your financial struggles might feel all-consuming and never-ending right now, there is always a way out. Debt is solvable. It’s only temporary. Most people find it difficult talking about their finances with others, and that’s okay. Money Mentors’ counsellors understand that everyone’s financial situation is unique, and no two struggles are the same. They provide free, unbiased and approachable advice for those who can’t see past their debt and are looking for a better quality of life.
Take care of yourself
Mental health issues can manifest in many ways so it’s important to take the time to care for yourself. Whether it’s practicing self-care or simply checking in with yourself daily, don’t skip this step. Here’s a simple check-in for those moments when your negative thoughts feel too powerful:
- Pause for a moment and take three deep, slow breaths. Take this time to focus on the present and let the outside world and your stresses, worries and thoughts slide away.
- Start to reflect on your five senses. What are you hearing right now? Seeing? Feeling? Smelling? And tasting? Now turn your attention to your emotions―how have these negative feelings, anxiety or panic affected your body? Are your fists or jaw clenched? Is there a knot in your stomach? Is your heart beating faster than normal?
- Listen to your self-talk. What are you telling yourself right now that is making you react this way? Are you blaming yourself for a financial blunder? Are you telling yourself that you’ll never reach your financial goals? Are you shaming yourself for making a recent purchase?
- Now that you’re aware of what is being said, felt and sensed, redirect your attention to stopping that negative conversation, unclenching your fists and jaw, releasing the stress in your stomach, slowing your heartbeat and cultivating new positive habits.
Remember to give yourself grace. This journey isn’t easy, and your finances play a big role in your life. But by following the above steps and dedicating yourself to change, you will be able to overcome your financial struggles and better your mental health.
And we will be with you every step of the way.